He’s Not Responsive
Unless he has forgotten something at home or has a favor to ask you. He has seen your messages and can afford to spare five minutes on his phone to answer you. But he probably has better things to do.
You See Each Other Only When He Is Drunk
He always calls you at a late hour, after a good evening with friends or he joins you when you are having a party. In short — he makes you go after his friends, and simply wants to end his evening in a pleasant way. The only time you see him sober is the morning after the party, during the first coffee time, and you usually have a hangover.
He Is Very Active on Social Networks
What conclusion do you draw when you see that he floods his Insta thread and his Twitter account all day long while it’s been several days since you wait for him to deign to answer your text? You probably already know the answer.
It’s Always You Who Initiates Things
Whether it’s a date night invitation, some insinuation, or a simple “how are you?”, you can not help but notice that it’s always you who takes the first step. And yet, we cannot say that you harass him since you are confined to one or two messages maximum per week. What would happen if you started ignoring him? Probably not much.
He Chooses His Nightmare Plans Instead of Your Company
You can see that it inflates him to an unimaginable point of going to this anniversary. However, when you gently devote yourself to save him from this “ambush” and offer him a movie party instead (or whatever), he answers you all by himself: “No, I’ll go anyway.” And if he does not even offer to accompany you, then this is definitely not a good sign.
He Does Not Ask You so Many Questions
When we love someone, we never have enough. We are incredibly curious, and we want to know everything.
If he does not look really interested in what you have to say, he seems to be bored when you talk, he cuts you off, he looks away, or he does not remember the things you tell him, it’s a big sign.
He Only Calls You When He Is Bored
You’ve noticed that every time he calls you, he’s either stuck in traffic or waiting in the supermarket. But oddly, he picks up very rarely when you call him.
He Can’t Plan More Than a Week in Advance
You want to go to this concert that takes place in a month, and you offer him to accompany you because you know he also loves this group. If he answers something like, “oh, I do not know if I will be available in a month,” it does not seem very good for you. Because it means that he probably has nothing planned on that date, but on the other hand he is not sure that he will want to see you again at that moment. In other words, he does not have plans with you, even in the very near future.
He Makes No Effort With Your Friends
He hardly looks at them and asks them any questions. In fact, he rarely retains their first names. And if he has the misfortune not to appreciate one of them, he will not fail to let him know. Which says a lot about the esteem he has for you …
He Never Remembers Anything About You
Even though he has a busy schedule and a multitude of things to handle on a daily basis, he should still remember the important things you reveal to him about yourself. If after several weeks, he does not remember the job you do, or your last name, then yes, his interest in you is clearly limited. Or, like Dory in Finding Nemo, he suffers from major memory problems.
You Know It, That’s All
Basically, you already know the truth. You are reading this article because you hope you may be wrong, but now you have to deal with the unpleasant truth that you may not be. Maybe this relationship will not unfold as you hoped, and now you will have to dust off and go back to square one.
If a guy is not interested in you, that only means that he’s not the right guy for you, and that’s all. Do not blame yourself or take it personally. I know it’s personal, but it is not.
It can be devastating at the moment, especially if you felt that the connection was strong and that it was all the qualities you want in a man, but if he were the right guy for you, he would be with you. You may not see it now, but over time you will meet a man who shows interest in you, who really sees you, and appreciates the extent of what you are. Then, you will wonder why you lost time with someone who could not or did not want to see your value.